My brain is going in a lot of directions this morning in blog-land.  Let’s see where this goes.

Relationships. 

Relationships always are a work in motion.  What you put into a relationship is what you get out of it.  I have been fortunate in round two.  During my first marriage, there were always issues.  I’m not going to say that stubbornness wasn’t a downfall for both of us.  I won’t say that age and maturity weren’t factors.  There were many things that were part of my first marriage that probably influenced us negatively.  In the end, death was the thing that inevitably ended the marriage.  We both seemed to hold onto it despite everything. 

When someone dies, at least in my case, there was a process of getting rid of all of the negatives and remembering the positives.  Whatever happened, happened.  I, nor can anyone, rewrite the past. 

My second marriage is a treat.  I think that it is much easier, as I have said before.  We have life experience under our belts.  I am by no means trying to make anyone believe that I live in the perfect relationship.  I am not that naïve.  I am not trying to fool anyone, including myself.  We have issues. We all have issues.

Here’s the thing that I believe we have to realize and accept.  Every day is a new day in a relationship.  Sometimes, we have to take turns to be the forgiver versus the forgiven.  No one is always going to be right always.  Just like no one is going to be wrong.  There are always going to be outside stresses.  It’s impossible not to have this happen.  Sometimes, one person over the other has to carry the relationship for extended times.

The important thing is to always know that you are loved and appreciated.  It’s imperative to remember every day that you are with someone who loves you and who is your best friend.  Even when you think you are way on opposite ends, that is the person that you are with is who you always want in your corner.  This is the person who knows you best and loves you unconditionally.

There are always going to be rough spots.  There are always going to be days that you have to forgive extra.  Days that you have to work to remember why you love this person.  Days that you need to look past the negativity, realizing it is just a rough spot. 

There are many, many musicians and song writers who make their living with love songs.  I personally like listening to love songs.  For me, they are a pleasant reminder of what is important in my life.  My husband, my kids, my family and friends.  These are the people in my life who I hold dearly in my heart and love unconditionally.  Sometimes, it’s not easy. 

I am opinionated.  When I think I see something wrong, I want to fix it.  I have to respect that not everyone wants me to share my thoughts and opinions with what I see as logical. 

What I guess I want to say is that even when life gets tough, it is a true blessing to know that you have someone in your corner to count on.  Someone who loves you. Someone who is part of you.  Someone who as Barbra Streisand and Blake Shelton sing, I’d Want it to be You.  Someone you can count on every minute of every day.

So let’s all try to put our poison pens and sharp tongues aside and appreciate the love that we have.  Let’s all realize that no one is more or less perfect than anyone else.  Fairy tales aren’t real, but happiness doesn’t have to be a fairytale.  Happiness can just be knowing that you are with your best friend.  A person that makes you accountable for whatever.  A person who will travel to the end of the rainbow with you because they know that you are partners and you are better as a team than you are apart.

So, be happy.  Be patient.  Reflect on the positives.  Simply, love and appreciate each other.