Forgiveness

Here’s a word that we have all experienced probably from a few angles.   Here’s the thing.  Going through the words of I forgive you is easy when you see them or hear them from another person.  Regardless if you want to forgive or are being forgiven, it is easier to agree and to end the spat or forget it rather than allow it to continue.  In the end, it’s another person.  You can just ignore them, if you choose to.

When it is yourself that you have to forgive, you can’t just accept a silent apology.  You can’t just pretend things are ok.  There is a silent process.  It is a process that you can’t kid yourself with.  It is much more difficult. 

Here’s the thing.  We all screw up.  We all do things we regret.  We all punish ourselves.  We all take too long to forgive ourselves.   Our conscience creates an internal turmoil.  We lose sleep or go into a depression.  We fall into whatever vice we have to comfort ourselves.

I have this saying that each of my kids have heard probably 100’s of times.  My friends have heard it many times. 

I say that you can live with anything, when you find the proper perspective to put it in.  I honestly believe that.

As a person, you have many options to deal with things.  You can get mad. You can cry.  You can sit and quietly pout. You can be in denial and pretend nothing happened.  After you go through those things though, you still have to look in the mirror at yourself.  You still have to fix “it”.  You still have to forgive yourself. 

It’s easy to look from the outside and advice people.  To Kill a Mockingbird have a line in it.  Essentially, it says that you can’t judge a person until you walk in their shoes.  Very, very true.  What is needed is a support system.  What isn’t needed are dictators. 

We are all busy.  We are all predestined to be more selfish than we should be.  We all need to prioritize our time.  If we know that we can be a help to someone who we consider important in our life’s.  Help them out.

Maybe all we need to do it talk or allow them to talk.  Maybe they need to know that they aren’t going through life alone. Maybe they need a support system.  Maybe they need a friend.

Let’s help each other forgive ourselves as well as others.